While we had heard rumors of Harry's tantrums and loyalty tests with palace staff, along with his obsession with social media, alcohol, and drugs, the extent of his worst actions remained undisclosed.
It speaks volumes that none of the staff members leaked any information about his misconduct, as the scandals that made the headlines were merely the tip of the iceberg.
It is likely that Harry desired a wife who could help maintain his status as the public's favorite royal, following in the footsteps of the late Queen.
At times, he may have felt envious of his brother William's position, desiring the same happiness he saw in William's relationship with Catherine. However, it is important to remember that the past can be tainted by the present.
For instance, a seemingly innocent scene of William and Harry being interviewed together beside a helicopter now carries a sinister undertone, hinting at Harry's bitterness and jealousy. However, at the time, it was simply two brothers playfully teasing each other and having fun. Harry often downplayed his intelligence, causing William to roll his eyes, indicating that it was a conversation they had frequently. Comments about each other's appearance, such as Harry's reference to William's baldness and the playful banter between siblings and friends.
What makes this situation so complex for Harry is the genuine love he has for his brother, mixed with envy over not being the firstborn. Furthermore, Harry is easily influenced and manipulated due to his lack of critical thinking skills. Additionally, the unique dynamics of the royal family, with layers of staff acting as intermediaries, further complicate their relationship.
If there were moments when Harry sought reassurance from William but found him occupied with royal duties or projects, a staff member may have relayed a response without considering the complexities of their family dynamics. Unfortunately, this can lead to misinterpretations and distortions of reality, which may breed feelings of malice.
It is indeed terrible that Harry's family wasn't always available to support him. While it may appear that William used staff members to ignore Harry, it's important to remember that being the spare to the heir may have influenced their interactions. Rather than offering reassurance and scheduling quality time for the brothers to resolve any issues, a narcissistic individual seeking to isolate would exploit minor grievances and compare them unfavorably to normal families, causing doubt and pain. Given Harry's low self-esteem, he likely believed these distortions readily.
It is crucial to acknowledge that Harry had his flaws. He could be selfish and envious, but despite the revelations, he treated his staff well enough for them to remain loyal, never leaking any mistreatment. He genuinely enjoyed spending time with William and later with Catherine, wholeheartedly embracing his royal engagements and leaving the public with positive impressions. He may have had problems, but he was not a monster back then.
However, everything changed when Meghan entered the picture. Her presence seemed to alter Harry's behavior, replacing his passing mood swings with something more permanent.
Behind closed doors, Harry's complaints began to escalate, but rather than blowing over, they started manifesting in public. He took it upon himself to release statements about Meghan without consulting anyone else, firmly convinced that his family was entirely against him. His envy towards William and Catherine reached an incessant fever pitch, openly disrespecting his grandparents and viewing the late Queen and Prince Philip as adversaries. Every positive, ordinary, fun, and happy interaction with his family underwent a transformation into one filled with indifference, envy, dismissal, and misery.
It is crucial to hold Harry accountable for his own actions; he cannot be given a free pass for the harm he has caused. His mistreatment of his family, the United Kingdom, the Commonwealth, and the exploitation of charitable causes for personal gain should not be overlooked. Meghan did not force him into these actions; he needs to understand that he cannot continue to blame others for his own faults, failures, and inappropriate behavior.
However, it is undeniable that Meghan had a profound impact on Harry, and it happened rapidly. She seemed to bring out the worst in him, although those negative aspects may have always been present beneath the surface. Harry's family had previously kept him engaged in activities he enjoyed, allowing him to embrace his childish persona and find joy in life. This shielded him from experiencing the full weight of being the spare to the heir.
Once Meghan entered the picture, she enabled his angry twin to emerge. It is a classic narcissistic move to make someone believe they were unhappy until they met the manipulator, filling their head with falsehoods about events that never occurred and emotions they were previously unaware of. This manipulation stokes anger and discontent with one's own life, leading to complete isolation from their previous existence.
Without Meghan's influence, it is unlikely that Harry would have caused the extent of damage he has done on his own. He may have fluctuated between happiness and seething resentment, as he always had, but he would have vented his frustrations privately before continuing to present a composed image publicly.
He might have harbored a longing for a normal life while reluctantly accepting his royal responsibilities because he had no other option and needed the structure that the palace provided. Meghan seized upon his "I wish I could lead a normal life" complaints and pushed him towards that path, enticing him with promises of Hollywood deals, Diana-level stardom, and the opportunity to outshine his heir brother, whom Meghan successfully convinced Harry despised him.
I don't sympathize with Harry; he has crossed too many boundaries and gone too far. I will never forgive him for his mistreatment of the late Queen and Prince Philip, nor for the detrimental impact on his own children. However, I also recognize that Meghan was the catalyst behind his transformation, and I refuse to buy into the narrative that she was merely a passive passenger to his rage and jealousy. She has always been the driver, while Harry, being the selfish fool that he is, allowed himself to be swept along.
