Is he capable of it? Harry really seems to consider only himself and his feelings, and I suppose Megan and the children. He takes no personal responsibility for anything; nothing is ever his fault. Are they both narcissists?
What comes to mind is what looks like a glaring lack of empathy for Prince Philip as he was dying, the late Queen as her husband was dying, and she also was dying, his father, Camilla, William, Catherine, and Charlotte, especially after the bridesmaid dress showdown. George, Louis, even though he expresses faux concern for them as spares. Chelsea, the disabled matron at his school. Sasha, of the virginal frolic in the field, and so on.
He sees someone in pain or hears a sad story, and he feels... he lacks whatever it is that makes some of us cringe when someone else, whom we don't even care about, makes a mistake. He is the sort who can't put himself in another person's shoes.
However, sympathy is a good thing. Understanding that another person is hurting and being sad for them is a step ahead of someone like Megan. Sympathy can often substitute for empathy. Sometimes sympathy is all that we can expect. Sympathy is the beginning of empathy, and I agree from what you and others say, Harry showed those beginnings. It is sad that he has lost touch with the better side of himself.
He doesn't even show cognitive empathy. People can naturally not match in the way of true empathy when you're feeling what they might be feeling, but they can all cover up that failing with cognitive empathy. Maybe Megan has pretty decent cognitive empathy when she chooses to engage in it, but he just has nothing. No true empathy, no cognitive empathy. The only thing he cares about is himself. The only thoughts or feelings he understands are his own. He's got some big diagnosis that's been missed, whether it's an antisocial personality disorder or borderline or something like that. Who knows? But it's very clear that he's not right at all.
He loves humanity in theory, but one on one, nope. I can't forget Harry's epic empathy failure when Charles's mother, the queen, lay dying. Per Harry's own account, he argued with Charles about bringing Megan to the Queen's deathbed in Balmoral and said his father's words didn't make sense. Hello, it's raw and emotional facing a parent's death. Harry of all people should have cared for his father, uncles, and aunt during their mother's passing, but no, it's always about Harry.
I always felt he was a spoiled brat, but I do believe he had a natural level of empathy that could have been stronger had his mother lived and/or if he wasn't so utterly spoiled in his upbringing. His patronage in Lesotho started in 2004, and it was quite beautiful and touching for me. I thought he was finally able to continue Diana's legacy as the spoiled boy was being pushed away, and his empathic side was coming forward.
Unlike Madame's Rwanda trip, which was so clearly just used as a photo op, Harry got down and really threw himself into the charity, connecting with the kids. And in 2004, when he was holding the poor, poor baby girl named Leketsu, who had an extremely terrible thing happen to her that I care not to expand on here, he was choosing to lose it in tears. He held that baby with so much warmth and care. Madame looked more like she was ready to leave, doing some of her hard labor in Rwanda. She had no connection to that charity.
Just Google Prince Harry Lesotho, and you'll see dozens of images of him really connecting with the beautiful kids."
I think it was his empathic side that was eventually exploited by his wife and twisted, allowing his spoiled bullish side to come forward big time. She made him use his bullish side to bulldoze not just a path, but a freeway solely for her. His idiotic brain cared not to see her true nature, as he continually allows her to ruin his life.
Since he moved to California, I haven't seen the warmth from his Lesotho visits. The Harry that connected with those terrific kids in Lesotho is now long gone, his brain twisted from isolation, his dependence on drugs and alcohol, and of course, her manipulation. This is still all on him. Instead of shining a light on those patronages that could have used his once-popular star power, he selfishly chose to shine all the light on his grifter wife.
A British expert analyzed, 'I think Harry has borderline traits, just like his mother. That whole 'I hate you, don't leave me' thing. A prime example is his behavior towards his family. He throws dagger after dagger, but then tells them he wants a relationship with them. He claimed that 2023 was supposed to be the year of reconciliation but gets mad when he doesn't get what he wants and starts with the daggers again.
It's a vicious cycle that won't stop unless the family completely cuts him off. Even then, he'll paint himself as the victim and then as the perpetrator. It's very hard to get yourself out of the situation because of the massive doses of manipulation you receive. 'I love you, I hate you, we're friends, we're not friends, I miss you, you're evil, I love you again. Oh no, wait, I don't.'
I don't feel sorry for Harry; I feel sorry for his family.
Meghan, on the other hand, is a malignant narcissist through and through. She's as destructive as they come, and being in the Hollywood scene, or trying to be, is feeding that because Hollywood is full of narcs. Will she self-destruct? Who knows? Narcs can be amazing at self-preservation. We've seen it a lot over the last six months with her completely detaching when Harry was doing his publicity tour and when he came to the coronation.
That wasn't about her stepping back to let him have the limelight or Archie's birthday. It was her putting distance between herself and Harry and herself and the bad press she would have received. Self-preservation.
I think they fight a lot behind closed doors, but it's not a normal husband and wife fighting. I think it's cycles of screaming matches followed by days of the silent treatment. And I don't think it all comes from her. I think Harry is just as culpable.
You have two people, each with some type of cluster B personality disorder. Two people who thrive on chaos and drama. One has had issues with abandonment (Harry), and the other is like a vampire who sucks their victims dry emotionally and then discards them (Meghan).
It isn't a good situation, and more than likely, Harry will be the loser in the end because the narc will always be focused on self-preservation and destroying every potential liability or threat in their path. I think Harry is now that threat.
