10 reasons to understand Princess Diana
Lady Di was born on July 1, 1961 and died on August 31, 1997. Despite the passage of time and after so much information about the so-called «People's Princess», there are still some doubts about the reasons why having a promising future, everything ended in tragedy.
There is a principle that reads: "Childhood is destiny", and it is parents who, according to the treatment and teachings with which they have trained their children, determine their performance in adult life.
Diana undoubtedly had an opulent life, close to British royalty, with many opportunities to do things that depended only on money, but in her personal development she was an abandoned girl who spent much of her childhood next to her brothers and under the care As nannies, until their age allowed them to be admitted to prestigious schools from which they only temporarily left during vacation periods.
That was the beginning of the princess's life, but little by little her growth was fueled by experiences in which the negative was privileged and, therefore, she lacked the tools to resolve the events that were presented to her in the wake of the years.
10 reasons to understand Princess Diana
Although it would be impossible to recount each moment that marked her destiny and many have already been mentioned, it is worth taking a tour of Diana's most private trails to explain her life. This is how her story passed:
1. In the audio recordings Diana made with the help of various allies for Andrew Morton, she confessed that she was not appreciated in the family: “My family said that I was stupid, that the smart one was my brother. My parents never told me they loved me.
Di was a girl who lived closely with the domestic violence that resulted in this type of demonstration, in addition to the constant fights between her parents and the dispute over parental authority upon divorce. These situations caused her to grow up with low self-esteem, feeling vulnerable above all else and lacking self-confidence, explains psychologist Hans Olvera, a researcher at the Ibero-American University.
“This ultimately influenced her self-image, hence she developed bulimia, she also did not feel valuable and therefore she sought the approval of all those around her: partner, lovers and members of her family. It is a fact that she never dared to raise her voice because she assumed she was deserving of derogatory treatment, that is how she had grown up. This also explains why it was so long before she came up with the idea of divorce, ”says the specialist.
2. She was always the target of abuse, ridicule and disrespect, and far from learning to set limits, she lent herself to it by doing what others told her and punishing herself when she felt she was not accepted. That sense of obedience robbed her of the power to make her own decisions and to analyze what was or was not convenient for her.
"The eating disorders that she suffered were also a great reflection of the anxiety she felt about feeling inappropriate, as were the suicide attempts, which made clear her need to disappear by not considering herself valuable or worthy of being respected," the psychologist abounds. .
3. Despite the fact that she claimed to have married in love, it was unlikely that this was the case, since her cohabitation with Carlos of England occurred on rare occasions. In addition, Diana said in the recordings that he was very strange: sometimes he could be enthusiastic and sometimes completely indifferent, just as it was also common for her butler to announce the invitations to go out or call her on the prince's instructions.
According to the specialist: «The first months of a relationship are a stage of infatuation in which everything is perfect. As you mature, you begin to know and accept each other fully, then you can talk about love. In the case of this couple this was impossible, also considering that she was the only one who made an effort. It is a possibility that, like many people, she was in love with an illusion, but not with the subject in question.
4. Not only was she disappointed with heartbreak. With the passage of time and very clear actions, she discovered that Carlos was an insensitive and selfish type, with her, with her children and with her own friends. In 1988, while skiing in Switzerland, an avalanche ended the life of Major Hugh Lindsay, a close friend of the couple. Although after the accident, witnesses affirm that Carlos cried and asked that Queen Elizabeth II be notified immediately, he did not abandon his vacation despite Diana's request, he replied that his friend was already dead and there was nothing else to do. She had to return alone accompanying the coffin to break the news to the widow.
5. The constant betrayals of which she was a victim shattered her trust towards others and towards herself. In life she never ignored that many of the people she held dear betrayed her and some of them have continued after her death.
As Elton John explained in an interview, in her last years of life, the princess trusted the wrong people and left her true friends aside. She got to the point, according to the singer-songwriter, of giving up having security personnel, because she believed, with good reason, that they wanted to harm her. According to experts, it was this recklessness that claimed her life.
6. In her life she had a very difficult place to cope. Although she was aware of her husband's infidelity, she was tired of the humiliation and mistreatment she received from him and the Windsors, she could not get out of that environment on her own. You had to take care of appearances and that was one reason why Elizabeth II insisted that they continue to appear at public events together, according to her biographer Andrew Morton.
But beyond this scenario, there was an unbreakable point: Diana had publicly acknowledged her infidelity and although he was too, she had much more to lose, such as the guardianship of her children, and she was not willing to accept it, because that happened to her. to his own mother.
7. Talking about Diana's story implies returning again and again to the same point: the immense loneliness that afflicted her and, coupled with it, the need she had to feel loved. This caused her to surround herself more than once with inappropriate people who pretended to be fond of her and who penetrated her privacy to take advantage of her, including her family.
In this sense, a program on the British network ITV broadcast in 2004 exposed the manipulation made by her mother Frances Shand and her sister Sarah about the inheritance she left and her wishes. Such was the scandal that Elizabeth II asked that Diana's memory be left alone, out of respect for William and Harry.
8. Over time she was associated with different men with whom she was romantically linked and cast doubt on the honor of the princess. In this regard, the specialist Hans Olvera warns that this situation was due to the need she had to feel accepted, protected and to receive affection, which is understood very well when it is verified that most of the couples with whom she was related, formed some of his security personnel and some of them were outstanding, like Dr. Hasnet Khan.
9. Despite the fact that Carlos was 12 years older than Diana, he was never a psychologically mature man. The princess's mother had already defined him as "a spoiled and spoiled child," according to a British newspaper.
And he was not without reason judging by the attitudes and reasoning of the crown prince, who, it is said, the night before the wedding, spent his time crying and assured that Diana was a woman he could learn to love, but that his great love was his lover Camilla.
The lack of commitment and affection towards Diana was one of the main causes for the failure of the marriage, despite the fact that she attributed a great responsibility to the media that praised her work and to the great admiration that people felt for her. which aroused the jealousy of a proud prince who went completely unnoticed and was even rejected. All this set of elements made it impossible for that relationship to be saved and could be transformed into something positive for both of us.
10. Diana's altruistic nature accompanied her from her early childhood, but over the years her role as a member of royalty led her to move like a fish in water in something that she was naturally passionate about: helping others.
His work was projected in an important way when he met Mother Teresa of Calcutta, who, upon learning from the princess's own voice, of the disagreements she faced in her marriage, gave her advice that transformed Di's life in an incredible way: "Give meaning to your life and take refuge in giving love to others."
Diana took the advice and dedicated her life to helping in every way possible, and transmitted to her children the simplicity and interest in seeking the well-being of the rest of the people.
