Seward's book, "My Mother and I," highlighted the Queen's concern about Meghan's dress being too flamboyantly virginal for a divorced person getting remarried in a church. The arrangement for Prince Charles to escort Meghan partway down the aisle due to her father's absence was agreed upon before the ceremony. However, the Queen was not entirely happy with this plan and worried about her husband walking down the aisle after hip surgery just five weeks prior.
The book also delves into the Queen's disappointment with Harry's decision to leave the royal family and criticize the institution during his interview with Oprah Winfrey. Seward noted that at that point, the Queen decided not to worry about Harry, as he seemed determined to prioritize his wife's views over familial concerns.
Meanwhile, Royal biographer Tom Bower claimed that the late Queen caught Meghan shouting at and being abusive towards palace staff. The Queen reportedly reprimanded Meghan, stating, "We don't talk to people like that in this family." Additionally, an account from Megan, a daughter of a former courtier, shared on Tumblr shed light on Meghan's desires for a more elaborate engagement ring. Megan and Harry reportedly demanded alterations to the ring, including using diamonds from the Royal collection. When the Queen denied the request, Meghan's reaction was described as venomous, leading to the Queen labeling her as "evil." The couple's unsuccessful attempt to obtain diamonds from Earl Spencer for a tiara reportedly contributed to his decision not to attend the christening, although he did attend the wedding for optics.
